Parenting can be tough and being a Dad has a whole set of challenges that may never have been considered or foreseen. While the mothering role is quite clearly defined by society the fathering role is more fluid and evolving. It was only a generation or so back that the Father was the breadwinner and disciplinarian. A Dad present at the birth would never had been considered and nappy changing or bathing would have been uncommon.
Now only a generation on and with constantly moving goal posts Dads are working hard at trying to figure out what is the new normal. The journey into fatherhood for some men can be a little rocky, with their knowledge of fathering embedded from their role models – their own fathers and the expectations of their partner and society which are often at odds. Fatherhood however can be a time of great joy and a love that you never thought was possible.
Infant massage is such a lovely way for a Father and their infant to bond. Not only does it enhance emotional attachment but also helps the Dad to gain confidence in handling and caring for their baby.
So to all the Dads this is the time to reflect and acknowledge the great job you are doing. Take the time to love and nurture you baby. Let your partner know how you are going and to the Mums give your partners the space to father. Grow together, learn, laugh and love on this amazing journey that is parenthood.
Worth a Look
Here are some useful links for Dads:
- Dads in the early years sessions run by Meerilinga
- Information from Nagala for Dads
- Information from the Parenting and Child Health website on Being a Dad
- A great research article titled "Supporting Fathering Through Infant Massage"
"A grandfather is someone who has silver in his hair and gold in his heart"
- Author Anon